Comments on: No money, no honey?

By: sourketchup

sourketchup — Sun, 26 Aug 2007 08:41:45 +0000

Simple, with money, the man stands a reasonable chance.

Without money, the man gotta lower his expectations.

By: The Orange Ox

The Orange Ox — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 05:58:23 +0000

I think most of you guys have mis-interpreted my blog.

I never said in my blog that ‘only money can get women’ as stated in Aaron Ng’s blog. I also never mentioned that if you are not rich, you would not be able to attract girls.

I did mention that girls love money. And to get a girlfriend and wife, all you really need is lots of it. Right? Yes you can buy a wife from China, Vietnam, etc. Even if you intend to have a relationship with a Singaporean girl you will need lots of money for dating, marriage, having kids, buying a house.

Also, to answer Aaron’s question - I am 34yrs old, happily married to a wonderful lady for more than 8 years with 2 kids. My wife is not the flirty type and she knows how to save and spend wisely. She also loves money. A matter of fact…I also love money.

You might want to visit my other blog:
http://theorangeox.blogspot.com/2007/05/why-money-and-more-money.html

By: Kay

Kay — Mon, 23 Jul 2007 04:38:38 +0000

I think the same goes to either gender.
If a old women got lots of money, she can get a man or even a young man. It’s just depends on the person if they that kind of person to think such way. Individual seeks different kind of relationship.

By: » What a girl wants Flying Low

» What a girl wants Flying Low — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 03:19:57 +0000

[...] was reading Aaron’s post on no money, no honey in response to people writing about materialistic Singapore [...]

By: jdtoh

jdtoh — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 03:17:34 +0000

Well, I know of couples that got together for completely wrong reasons (from “our” perspective) - money, security, desperation, glamour etc. but whose relationships are still going strong after years of marriage. While some that were madly in love divorced only after a couple of years together.

Weird eh? ^_^

By: Jol

Jol — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 22:14:11 +0000

Some women go for money, some women don’t. (Just as some men want docile, skeletal stupidity and some men don’t.) But your comments are right on the mark: who cares about what does attract the women who go for money? - because, really, why would you want them anyway? We form relationships with individual people, not categories of people; people should strive to fulfil their aspirations in terms of the kind of person they want to be regardless of what draws potential partners, and then look out for the handful who fit right for them, their values and sensibilities and emotional constitutions, rather than obsessing about being Mr. or Ms. Generically Attractive without even having developed one’s own priorities or sense of self first.

By: kitsura

kitsura — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 17:34:15 +0000

“…what then is the difference between having a girlfriend/wife and paying for a social escort/prostitute?”

That’s an easy one. A prostitute is cheaper!

Jokes aside I do admit that Singapore girls unlike most of their Western counterparts tend to be more materialistic. Most of them will think the guy as cheapskate if he refuses to pay or goes dutch on a date. But I think this has something to do with our pragmatic society that comes from having such a pragmatic gahmen.

By: Michaelk

Michaelk — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 08:28:45 +0000

Sorry Aaron, your Meebo rarely shows you online =( I use IM through the MSN protocol, though. It would be great to chat there instead.

Anyway, were you referring to SG women in the age range of 15-19, or not? A discussion about this can go very, very wrong if we are talking about two different groups of people. Thanks!

By: Shae

Shae — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 03:06:57 +0000

Aaron,

Thank you for this post. Despite my previous comments on your earlier post about equality in Singapore between men and women, I believe that you are one of the few good men in Singapore who generally try to be fair and intelligent in your attitudes towards women.

I am a woman (duh!) and I do consider myself largely materialistic. I am a total shopaholic and I do hanker after the good things in life - branded handbags, pretty jewellery and clothes etc. However, I love my fiance far more than any of those things and I will support him in whatever he does, even if he decides to quit his job and become a student again and this will ultimately mean that I will become the sole breadwinner of our small family unit after we get married.

I don’t think it’s true that Singaporean women will not get together with Singaporean men because of lack of money though. However, I definitely will not consider being in a relationship with someone who is lazy, has no drive (when I say drive, I don’t mean ambition or the drive to earn oodles of money, but the motivation to always make the best of life. He doesn’t have to be a CEO or some bigshot, but he must have the drive to live each day meaningfully and to the fullest) takes no satisfaction in their work, has no zest for life. The aforementioned traits are just completely at odds with my own values in life.

I will consider dating a poor artist/writer/insert-any-occupation who has passion for their work and their life as well. And I do believe that the same holds true for many Singaporean women.

Notwithstanding the above, I do think it’s true that people who possess the traits that I value (drive, motivation, passion for life) generally hold good jobs with stable incomes than people who are lazy, possess no drive and has no motivation.

I know that it is a generalisation, I am not stuck to it because I have seen many examples that buck the trend.

Now I believe any Singaporean man who takes a superficial glance at me will consider my sentiments materialistic and see me as another woman who affirms their conviction that Singaporean women are superficial and materialistic.

I don’t think it takes much to maintain a relationship. Personally, I don’t need extravagant gifts, lots of couple time, luxurious trips to keep me invested in a relationship. I say that for a lot of women out there as well - many of my girlfriends are like me. All we want is to know that our men care about us - a listening ear, the heartfelt hugs, a comforting hand, etc. It is really as simple as that.

By: Michaelk

Michaelk — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 01:48:35 +0000

I don’t mean to say that all Singaporean girls are like that, by the way. But since we are on this topic, I have some observations to share.

Many relationships are actually formed based on superficial qualities such as looks or, as you mentioned, money. Is this a serious problem, or just something that all youths do?